Intentional Gift-Giving

Intentional Gift-Giving

So often during the holiday season, we find ourselves running around, frantically trying to find gifts for the people in our lives... whether they are friends, family members, coworkers, etc.

First of all, 9 times out of 10, you know Secret Santa gifts are total crap! Second, you already have enough stress in your life! Why TF would you stress yourself out more trying to find all these gifts?!


I understand traditions, but can you / have you ever suggested doing things differently?


Don’t get me wrong, I think gifts are great, but why are we FORCING THEM? Especially during a season that is supposed to be about connection, community, peace, joy, and love?! Aren’t we sending the wrong message?


Instead of spending time and energy finding a physical gift, could you embody the spirit of this season and give them the most precious gift:

Your time & attention.

Take the time you would have spent looking for a gift and spend it with them... either in person or virtually. Spend your time TOGETHER making more memories or reminiscing on old ones. Spend money on shared experiences.


🙏 Prioritize your inner peace and spend more time doing things that are important to you. I made this shift 7 or 8 years ago and it allowed me to enjoy the holidays SO MUCH MORE! Less stress, more fun, more memories, everyone wins. (P.s. When I brought this up to family and friends, everyone was on board!)

Here are some ideas of things you could do instead:

  • have coffee or a meal together (if you can’t do it during the holidays, make a plan to do it asap!)

  • virtual coffee on facetime/zoom

  • take a walk or go on a hike

  • do an activity together*

  • write them a gratitude letter

  • volunteer together

  • cook or bake a new recipe

  • go on a road trip or scenic drive

  • go to a museum or art show

  • look through old photos together

*pickleball, a puzzle, painting, or many other things that don't start with "p" !

Still not sure what to do or what talk about?

I have a list of intentional conversation questions and a scavenger hunt list - free resources you can use or adapt with anyone! (Click here to get them)

If you "have to" give gifts or do a Secret Santa exchange, suggest doing something more intentional, like sharing something you admire about the person or a fond/funny memory you have with them. Find ways to celebrate and thank people.

Bottom line:

Time is your most valuable resource. Use it wisely.

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Let's create a more intentional holiday season, together!

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"The Guest House" by Rumi - The poem that helped me through my darkest moments

"The Guest House" by Rumi - The poem that helped me through my darkest moments

Free Scavenger Hunt | Photo Scavenger Hunt for Adults

Free Scavenger Hunt | Photo Scavenger Hunt for Adults